8 Signs You're Becoming Your Best Self

8 Signs You’re Becoming Your Best Self

Life in Kenya is a daily adventure. But amidst all this, are you becoming the best version of yourself? 

To crack the code, I sat down with Grace Achieng, a self-improvement guru who agreed to share her secrets. Let the interrogation—I mean, interview—begin!

George: Welcome, folks! Today, I have the pleasure of sitting down with Grace Achieng, a woman who has not only mastered the art of self-improvement but has also agreed to let me interrogate—uh, I mean interview—her about it. Grace, are you ready?

Grace: Ready as I’ll ever be, George! Though, I must say, the word “interrogate” has me slightly concerned.

George: No need to worry! Unless, of course, you’re hiding secrets about becoming the best version of yourself, in which case, spill the beans! Let’s start with the first sign—you mentioned embracing life’s challenges. What does that actually look like in real life?

Grace: Oh, it’s messy, let me tell you! But in a good way. Imagine life throwing lemons at you—hard. Instead of ducking or complaining, you catch them, make lemonade, and maybe even open a lemonade stand. I once had a career setback that felt like a disaster. Instead of sulking (for too long), I used it as an opportunity to pivot, learn new skills, and now, here I am—thriving! Challenges don’t block your path; they are the path.

George: That sounds... both inspiring and exhausting. Okay, next—steering your own life. You mean to tell me we can’t blame the economy, the Government,Kasongo or our noisy neighbors for our problems?

Grace: Exactly! The moment you stop waiting for life to happen and start making things happen is when you level up. I stopped letting people’s opinions dictate my choices. Now, I steer my life like a professional Uber driver—except I don’t get lost as often.

George: Speaking of not getting lost, you also mentioned becoming your own coach. So, we’re all supposed to be our own life guru now?

Grace: Pretty much! We spend so much time looking for external motivation when the best coach is already inside us. I’ve learned to check in with myself daily. “Grace, are you making excuses today?” “Grace, did you drink enough water?” The trick is to be firm but kind—because, honestly, nobody thrives under a yelling coach.

George: I’ll admit, I like the idea of being my own coach—especially if I get to fire myself from time to time. Next up, self-compassion. This one sounds easy—just be nice to yourself, right?

Grace: Ha! If only! Most people are their own worst critics. We’d never call our friends “failures” for making mistakes, but we do it to ourselves all the time. Now, I try to treat myself like I would a friend—kindly, with patience, and with occasional ice cream.

George: That’s a philosophy I can get behind! Now, let’s talk about cultivating a growth mindset. Is this just a fancy way of saying, “Don’t give up”?

Grace: Essentially, yes! But it’s also about seeing failure as a lesson instead of a defeat. I once tried to learn Kimeru and failed miserably. Instead of quitting, I embraced the awkwardness, kept going, and now I can confidently ask for 'Ucuru bwa gukia' ( fermented porridge)in perfect Kimeru. Growth happens outside the comfort zone.

George: That’s a very important skill. You also emphasize mindfulness. Are we talking about deep meditation, or can I just stare at my coffee and contemplate life?

Grace: Both! Mindfulness is about being present. Enjoying the little moments. Not rushing through life like it’s a grocery store speed-run. It’s stopping to appreciate your coffee before it goes cold.

George: I like it. Next, seeking balance. Please tell me this includes napping.

Grace: Absolutely! Balance is key. Hustle culture glorifies burnout, but real success includes rest, fun, and Netflix marathons. If you’re working hard, you should also be relaxing hard. It’s science.

George: You’re officially my favorite self-improvement expert. Last but not least—embracing authenticity. That’s just a fancy way of saying “be yourself,” right?

Grace: Bingo! And trust me, it takes courage. The world pressures us to fit in, but the best thing you can do is stand out. I stopped filtering my personality and embraced my quirks. Turns out, people actually like the real me—who knew?

George: Well, Grace, this has been fun and surprisingly enlightening! Any final words of wisdom?

Grace: Just remember, becoming your best self is a journey, not a destination. And sometimes, the best way to grow is to laugh at yourself along the way.

George: Wise words! Now, let’s go practice mindfulness with a good cup of coffee—before it gets cold.

Grace: Agreed! Thanks for the chat, George!

Summary: 

8 Signs You’re Becoming Your Best Self

1. Embracing Challenges – Life will throw you lemons; don’t just make lemonade, start a juice business.

2. Taking Control of Your Life – Stop blaming the government, the weather, or that one nosy neighbor. Own your journey.

3. Being Your Own Coach – Motivate yourself, but also give yourself water breaks.

4. Practicing Self-Compassion – Treat yourself like a friend—kindly and with occasional ice cream.

5. Cultivating a Growth Mindset – Failures are lessons, not life sentences. Keep learning!

6. Being Mindful – Slow down and appreciate the small joys, like a perfectly made cup of chai.

7. Seeking Balance – Hustle, but also rest. Overworking is overrated.

8. Embracing Authenticity – Be your true self, quirks and all. You’re more likable than you think!

And there you have it! Which of these signs do you already have? 

Which ones do you need to work on? 

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